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 fishpie guy is using the victim-card as a niche. 

As I reflect on the recent controversy surrounding the “fishpie guy,” I am reminded of the dangers of adopting a victim mentality. While it’s understandable to feel taken advantage of or wronged by others, perpetually blaming others for our failures can be a recipe for stagnation.

In the case of the fishpie guy, it’s evident that he has been given numerous opportunities to succeed, from being taken in by Nons Miraj to being featured in skits by top comedians. Yet, instead of acknowledging these blessings and using them as a springboard for growth, he chooses to blame everyone else for his lack of progress.

This mindset is not only unproductive but also toxic. When we adopt a victim mentality, we relinquish control over our lives and instead wait for others to pity us or come to our rescue. Newsflash: nobody has time to spoon-feed an adult. It’s time to take responsibility for our lives and acknowledge that our successes and failures are, for the most part, a result of our own actions.

I can attest to this firsthand. When I started writing fiction on Facebook, I had no idea what blogging was about. However, I didn’t blame others for my lack of knowledge. Instead, I took the initiative to learn and improve, seeking guidance from others while also being my greatest critic.

The fishpie guy would do well to adopt a similar mindset. Rather than blaming Nons Miraj, Mark Nsukkabread, or anyone else for his failures, he should take a long, hard look in the mirror and ask himself what he could have done differently. It’s time to stop playing the victim card and start taking responsibility for his life.

As the saying goes, “when you point one finger at someone else, there are three fingers pointing back at you.” It’s time for the fishpie guy to stop pointing fingers and start taking action. The exposure he’s received is all the help he needs; now it’s up to him to use it as a catalyst for growth.

In conclusion, the victim mentality is a recipe for disaster. It’s time for us to stop blaming others for our failures and start taking responsibility for our lives. By doing so, we’ll be empowered to take control of our destinies and achieve greatness. The ball is in your court, fishpie guy. What will you do with it?

Exerpt from Eshi Ayo

However, I dislike people who blame everyone else for their failures except themselves.

“Everyone used me” but Nons Miraj gave you shelter, moved you out of trenches, changed your appearance and empowered you to an extent, what did you do to help yourself from there?

Everyone used you but some top skitmakers are following you on IG, some of them have featured you in their skits which gives you leverage.

I started writing fiction on Facebook and when I got a job to handle a page for Amanda Chisom, I had no idea what blogging was about. I just found myself sharing my thoughts on issues and it’s not long I realized that it is called opinion blogging.

Whenever I shared my posts on the page, I tagged my page. And I remember dear friend, Priscilla’s advice to me when I just started the job, “as you are working there, don’t neglect your page, carry it along” On God, if not for Mark Nsukkabread and his uzeless restrictions I know where my page would be by now.

The last thing I do is blame people. Before you see me blame others, it means it’s really their fault. I love to see where I contributed to my failures and then improve. I am my greatest critic.

Fishpie man, people have tried their best for you. Carry on with your life unless you want to be spoon-fed and no one has that time to spoon-feed an adult. Enough of the complaints and nagging. Face your life, you are not so special for people to put their own life on hold because they want to help you. The exposure alone was all the help you needed and every other thing you needed was guidance.

Victím mentality will keep you stagnant in life because instead of dusting off and moving ahead, you’d stay waiting for pity and pity won’t take you far. If this the victim card is a niche, change it, it’s not a good one.