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I watched Tuface daughter singing a song for her mother. In that video, Annie was the one recording her daughter as she sing for her mother.

By ChukwumaNduogulu

I recently came across a video that pierced through my heart like a silent dagger. It was simple—just a daughter singing to her mother. Yet, it carried with it the weight of broken vows, silent pain, and a mother’s quiet suffering. In that video, Annie Idibia, actress, entrepreneur, and longtime partner of Nigerian music icon Tuface Idibia, was recording their daughter as she sang a heartfelt tune. The line that echoed throughout the video was, “I will be there for you.”

At first, it seemed like a beautiful family moment. A daughter expressing affection for her mother. But when Annie started sobbing in the background—her voice trembling, tears streaming though she tried to hide them—something inside me shifted. That wasn’t just a song. It was a plea. A replacement. A child’s silent promise to fill the emotional vacuum left behind.

That was when sadness enveloped me.

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Not because I know Annie personally. Not because I have access to the private details of their marriage. But because I understood that pain. The pain of emotional absence, of love tried and tested beyond its limits, of being strong in the public eye while bleeding in private. And then I thought of Tuface. I thought of what he might be feeling. What he might be avoiding. And what he stands to lose if he doesn’t act now.

Children are beautiful. They are emotionally intelligent in ways we sometimes don’t give them credit for. In that moment when Annie’s daughter sang, “I will be there for you,” she wasn’t just performing. She was stepping into a role she felt had been abandoned. Her words weren’t rehearsed—they were born out of emotional necessity. She had read the silent tears of her mother. She had listened to the silences in between conversations. And in her own innocent way, she chose to be the balm.

But here’s the tragedy: when a child begins to play the role of a partner, the emotional burden can be too heavy. Children deserve to be children—not emotional caretakers of adults who are trying to pick up the pieces of a broken home. Yet this is the reality in many households where separation has become the new norm.

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It reminded me of Yul Edochie’s saga—how a man, embattled in his marital decisions, eventually found solace in rebuilding a new home. Whatever anyone thinks of him, Yul didn’t disappear from his children’s lives. He showed up in whatever capacity he could, and that counted for something.

Now, the question is: Will Tuface do the same? Or will he remain a background figure in his children’s stories, known only as a ghost in their emotional archives?

It is easy to cast judgment on celebrities. They are public figures, after all. But behind the glitz and Instagram filters are real people with broken pieces, tangled emotions, and a burning desire to be understood. In the case of Tuface, a man who once declared Annie as his queen despite the many women in his past, there is now an unsettling silence.

A silence that could be misconstrued. A silence that could breed resentment in the hearts of his children.

If he doesn’t sit Annie’s children down—his children too—and explain why the marriage ended, he runs the risk of being branded the villain in a story only half understood. The children may never muster the courage to ask their father why he left. And whatever version Annie gives them—whether complete or partial—becomes their emotional Bible.

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Tuface should not underestimate this. He should not think his legacy is safe simply because he pays school fees, sends birthday messages, or shows up at award ceremonies. Legacy is not built on appearance—it is built on emotional truth, especially to the ones who matter most: your children.

It is one thing to be a father by name. It is another to be known as “Dad” in the truest sense of the word. A father who shows up. A father who explains. A father who acknowledges pain—not just his, but also the pain he may have caused.

Tuface has many children from different women. This is not a secret. He has built a brand around humility, longevity, and charisma. But the truth is, if he doesn’t take control of the narrative, especially with Annie’s children, he might end up just like many absentee fathers—respected publicly but emotionally bankrupt in his own home.

Children who don’t understand why their father left often grow up with emotional walls. They become adults who resent not just the man who left, but men in general. Sons carry the burden of trying not to become like their father, while daughters internalize the fear of abandonment.

It is therefore crucial—imperative—that Tuface speaks.

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We all praised Annie when she returned to social media looking radiant, powerful, and “unbothered.” But any discerning mind could tell: that smile was stitched together with pain. Her eyes, though covered in lashes and gloss, were tired. Her body language said, “I’m okay,” but her spirit whispered, “I’m surviving.”

This is not unique to Annie. Many women go through this phase. They wear the badge of “strong woman” like a medal while drowning behind closed doors. They attend PTA meetings. They post reels. They show up at weddings. But at night, they cry into their pillows while their children rub their backs and say, “Mummy, everything will be fine.”

What a role reversal. What a heartbreaking sight.

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And then, just maybe, in moments like those, they remember how it all started—how they were once in love, how they once believed their home would last forever. And the bitterness returns.

Tuface still has time. His children are young. Their hearts, though bruised, are not hardened. But time waits for no one. If he does not act now, if he does not gather Annie’s children and tell his truth—whether they believe it or not—he will lose them emotionally. They may smile for the camera. They may wave at him in public. But deep inside, they will categorize him as the man who made their mother cry.

He doesn’t need to justify his actions. He doesn’t even need to vilify Annie. What he needs to do is be honest. To say:

“I tried. I failed. I still love you all. I didn’t leave because I hated your mum. I left because I could no longer cope. I respect her. I’m sorry. I’m still your father.”

These words may not solve everything, but they will plant a seed. And years from now, when those children become adults and reflect on their childhood, they will remember that their father spoke. That he didn’t hide. That he didn’t abandon them emotionally.

There is a popular misconception that men always win in relationships. That they move on easily. That they feel nothing. But many men are emotionally imprisoned by cultural expectations. They are told not to cry. Not to talk. To “man up.”

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What if Tuface is battling his own demons? What if he feels broken too? What if he wakes up and regrets some of his choices? What if he doesn’t know how to go back?

This is not to excuse emotional absenteeism. It’s to say: men too suffer. Men too die inside while the world praises their success. And sometimes, they make decisions not out of pride, but out of fear.

Perhaps Tuface didn’t want to hurt Annie. Perhaps he thought distance would heal what presence could not. But silence has never healed anything.

Years from now, the spotlight will fade. The fans will move on. The music will become nostalgia. All that will remain are the children. And their memories.

Tuface must ask himself today: what memories am I creating for my children? Will they remember me as the man who showed up, or the man who ghosted their emotional lives?

Children don’t care about your awards. They care about your presence. They remember your absence more than your popularity.

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And if one day, during an interview, one of his daughters is asked about her father, what will she say?

“He was there for us,”

or

“I never really knew him.”

Tuface must choose his legacy now. Before it is too late.

Annie may still be healing. Her social media posts may look glamorous, but healing is never linear. She needs support. Not just from her friends, but from the father of her children.

Even if they can’t be together again, co-parenting with dignity can be the difference between a child who feels loved and a child who feels torn.

Annie and Tuface owe it to their children to create a new kind of love story. One that says:

“We couldn’t stay together, but we stayed together for you.”

“I will be there for you,” she sang.

She meant it.

But her father must mean it too.

Because one day, that daughter will stop singing. She will start asking. She will want answers. And when that day comes, may her father be ready to speak.

All I was hearing was “I will be there for you”.

At a point, Annie started sobbing . That was the time I felt sad.

I felt sad because Tuface is likely to face what Yul Edochie faced in his marital life. If Tuface did not do fast and start raising a new home just as Yul Edochie did, he might end up having no child that would love him as a father even though he has many children from different women.

Only God knows how his children felt after he divorced their mother. Remember, Tuface will not be there to defend himself each time his children discusses the marital problem existing between their dad and mum.

Singing “I will be there for you” to her mother mean her dad has abandoned her mother hence her pledge to occupy her father’s position in her mother’s life.

We all praised Annie after she resurfaced on social media wearing a strong woman’s look in her face but the discerning minds are aware that in her closet, she is battling sad feelings for what befell her marriage and home.

Annie is not the only divorced woman putting on a strong woman’s look in the public but cry profusely at night while her children comforts her.

Tuface should gather all Annie’s children and open up to them why he is no longer with their mother.

He should assure them that he is there for them including their mother. If he didnt do this, those children of Annie will start seeing him as their mother’s enemy. They may not summon the courage to ask him why he left their mother and so therefore whatever Annie told them is what they are going to believe.

He is at the risk of doing everything a father should do to his children but still they won’t love him and will continue to see him as a bad man.

His children may not agree with whatever reasons their father presented to them as the reasons why he left their mother because they are still young and naive.

As they are growing and getting matured, they will begin to understand that men too suffer in marriages and are at a liberty to quit if they can’t go on with that marriage. They will remember what their father told them years ago and then stop hât!ng their father.