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Blessing CEO: When the Gods of Love Favor the Unexpected

In a surprising twist of societal fate, the winds of romance have taken an unconventional direction, sweeping blessings of marriage towards a group that many did not expect: single mothers. Within a short span of three months, Nigeria’s social media space has been lit up by back-to-back announcements of high-profile engagements and marriages involving women with children from previous relationships. These women, once judged by societal standards as “less desirable” due to their motherhood status, are now walking down the aisle with men who are rich, successful, and—shockingly—never married before.

The once-touted ideal of marrying a young, “never-been-touched” virgin or her close alternative—the churchy, morally upright half-virgin—has been thrown into disarray. Men who many assumed would settle with the so-called “clean slates” are now publicly choosing women who not only come with pasts, but with children.

And in this strange twist of fate, something deeply spiritual, deeply rooted in cosmic justice, seems to be at play.

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If you are spiritually inclined, you might agree that the metaphysical realm is not silent in this matter. The gods of love, long ignored by self-righteous singles, appear to have turned their backs on the self-entitled “never married before” category. For years, these self-styled perfect singles turned their noses up at single mothers, accusing them of being too complicated, carrying baggage, and demanding more than they deserved.

But as the stories unfold, it becomes clear that there is a divine reversal of order. Single mothers, with histories often marked by betrayal, heartbreak, abandonment, or just poor decisions, are receiving the kind of favor that social constructs rarely allow them. And not just favor—but elite favor.

We’re not talking about getting married to men in their fifties who are also reeling from divorce or baby mama drama. No. These women are marrying top-tier bachelors: wealthy, established men who could have had their pick from the fresh crop of ‘never-touched’ women.

So what is going on?

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The society has, for the longest time, equated moral purity with marital eligibility. A woman who stayed celibate until marriage was considered the highest form of wife material. Yet the statistics before us are forcing us to reconsider this long-held notion. If morality alone was the determinant of marriage, why are the so-called moral women still single?

Is it possible that marriage is not a reward for morality, but for something else entirely? Emotional intelligence? Maturity? Understanding? Maybe even pain-hardened resilience?

It would appear that men—especially the rich and successful—are beginning to see beyond the surface. Perhaps they have started realizing that a woman who has seen life, made mistakes, learned from them, and still has the capacity to love deeply is of greater value than one who has merely obeyed societal rules without any real test of character.

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The mature man knows that raising another man’s child does not make him less of a man. In fact, to care for a child who is not your own requires depth, compassion, and a sense of fatherhood that transcends biology. And when you pair that with a woman who knows the value of a second chance, you may just have the most stable home imaginable.

Let’s face it: many single women who have never been married have not exactly carried themselves in a way that invites marital favor. This isn’t a blanket judgment, but let’s speak frankly.

You have women who:

• Ignore sincere messages in their inboxes because the sender doesn’t drive a Benz.
• Collect transport fare and vanish.
• Label interested men as “Mugu 1,” “Mugu 2,” and “Transporter.”
• Lie about their relationship status to keep options open.
• Consider marriage proposals only after calculating the man’s net worth, tribe, and social status.

And when the gods of love look upon such behavior, what verdict do you think they render?

Meanwhile, the single mother—wounded, but wiser—approaches relationships with a kind of humility and honesty that many “pure” singles cannot fathom. She’s not there to play games. She has bills. She has responsibility. She has experience. She knows what betrayal looks like. She knows the value of a peaceful home. And more importantly, she knows how to keep one.

Perhaps the most shocking engagement of the year is that of Blessing Okoro, popularly known as BlessingCEO. A mother of multiple children and a social media firebrand, BlessingCEO is not your typical “ideal woman” in the traditional sense. Her online persona is controversial, bold, and sometimes even off-putting to conservative sensibilities.

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Yet, she got engaged—to a man who, according to reports, has never been married before. A man who knew her story, her children, her past—and still chose her.

Whether the engagement is real or a publicity stunt, the optics alone shook the table so hard that many single ladies fell off. For them, the news wasn’t just gossip—it was spiritual warfare.

If BlessingCEO could be chosen over thousands of quiet, church-going, allegedly untouched ladies who have been waiting on the Lord, then truly the heavens are no longer operating by our limited understanding.

This trend is not happening in isolation. It is a sign. A sign that the heavens have shifted their parameters. A wake-up call for those who think they are entitled to love and marriage simply because they are untainted.

Dear single lady, it’s time to reflect.

Could it be that your pride is what’s keeping you single? Could it be that your games, your taste, your attitude, and your lack of compassion are pushing away the very love you claim to desire? Could it be that while you’re waiting for a man who meets your 20-point checklist, someone who meets only 5 of yours is waiting for you—and would love you deeply?

Take a look around you. The women who are getting married are those who have lived, made mistakes, and decided to love again.

Not those playing “hard to get” with prayer points as their bulletproof.

To the Nigerian man—especially those with means—this shift should also inspire reflection. If you find yourself connecting more with women who have real-life experience, don’t feel ashamed. You’re not selling yourself short. You’re recognizing value where others see shame.

Single mothers are not broken. They are battle-tested. They have raised children on their own. They have played the role of mother and father. They understand sacrifice. If anything, they bring something to the table that many “ideal” women cannot: grit.

If your heart is drawn to a woman with a child, don’t let society shame you out of it. You could be choosing a queen.

Love, in its rawest form, is not about perfection—it’s about redemption. And the sudden wind blowing toward single mothers is not a fluke. It is justice. A spiritual balancing of scales.

The gods of love are teaching us something: that those who have been broken, yet still choose to love, are worthy of love too. That mistakes do not disqualify you from blessings. That your past does not cancel your future.

So, to all the single mothers getting married, congratulations. May your new homes be filled with peace, honor, and fulfillment.

To the never-married singles, it’s time to go on a soul-searching journey. What is standing between you and the kind of love others are finding?

If you must, go to the hills. Burn a candle. Cry to the gods of love. Fast and pray if it helps. But above all—change your ways. The heavens help those who are truly ready to love, not just to be loved.

And to the rest of us watching this divine drama unfold, may we remain humble, open-minded, and ready to learn. Because truly, a good wind is blowing—and it doesn’t always blow the way we expect.

The “never married before” has offended the gods of love and they have decided to release marriage blessings to the single mothers.

Within the space of three months, we have witnessed three high profile single mothers getting married while the virg!ns, half virg!ns, decent Iadies, night crawIers and prenders are there maintaining their status as single people.

It seems there is less drama in approaching single mothers than approaching pure singles for a relationship.

The strangest thing here is that they are not getting married to single fathers. They are getting married to rich single men who has never been married before.

I implore the singles to go and look for solution to what is happening to them. They should appease the gods of love and plead with the gods of love to forgive their shortcomings.

They should plead with the gods of love to forgive their usual habit of ignoring inbox messages, collecting transport fares but fail to show up and telling lies that they are not in any relationship while they have names of men showing interest in them saved in their phones as “mugu” this and “mugu” that.