10 WAYS TO PREVENT CHEATING ON YOUR PARTNER
By GNC CHUKWUEMEKA
📌Decide That You Will Not Cheat
Until you decide not to cheat, you haven’t started. Decision is the starting point of achieving something meaningful. Without a decision nothing can be done. So, you must make this decision.
This is not a one time decision because each day will present you with an opportunity to cheat. So you will have to keep making this decision that you will not cheat on your partner no matter the situation.
Your everyday decisions will determine the destiny of your marriage.
📌Shut Your Eyes
After you get married or enter a relationship, you will keep seeing people that are more beautiful, handsome, richer, endowed and romantic than your partner and if you’re not disciplined, the chances are high that you will cheat.
As a guy, shut your eyes against any other lady that is not your woman. As a lady, shut your eyes off every other man that is not your man.
King David saw a man’s wife bathing and instead of looking away, he kept looking. Finally, he slept with the woman and even killed the woman’s husband to cover up!(see 2 Sam 11:1-12).
Close your eyes and look away (Job 31:1).
📌Avoid Sharing Your Problems With The Opposite Sex For Pity And Sympathy.
Many women are guilty of this. They’re still very much in communication with their exes they had sexual relationship with, sharing their problems with them and even going further to collect sex on top.
If you really want to stay faithful in marriage, avoid that your ex you had sexual relationship with, avoid sharing your problems with others especially the opposite sex for pity or sympathy.
If it’s not the solution you’re looking for, avoid the sharing stuff. Problems have a way of bonding people. You will become emotionally entangled.
📌Avoid Too Much Play With The Opposite Sex
Cheating doesn’t just happen, it starts little by little. Little play here and little play with the opposite sex and before you know it, emotions are developing to the point it becomes uncontrollable.
Playing with the opposite sex while you’re married or have a partner that you are in a committed relationship with is like when a lion and a goat are playing. You know what that means.
That girl that whenever you see her, a chemical reaction begins to take place in your body, the earlier you avoid her the better.
The same is applicable to you, madam. That boy or man that you are always shining teeth with, the earlier you put some boundaries the better.
A little yeast leaveneth the whole dough.
📌Limit Communication With The Opposite Sex
Communication keeps relationships alive, without communication relationships suffer and die. Communication fosters intimacy among two people. It keeps the fire burning.
So, limit communication with the opposite sex. When you don’t have something really important to discuss, avoid all those unnecessary discussions. It will lead to something else.
📌Think About The Consequences
As a married woman, what do you think will happen if your husband should catch you while you’re sleeping with another man? Ask yourself the same question as a man, what will happen if your woman should catch you cheating on her?
There are consequences to cheating. Many have been killed because they cheated. Many have killed themselves because they were cheated on. A lot of marriages have crashed because of cheating. A lot of children are suffering today as a result of a broken marriage brought about by cheating. Trust, love, and confidence have been lost due to cheating.
Think about the consequences of that less than 5 minutes of enjoyment before you cheat.
Also, think about the effect your cheating will have on your partner. Think about how heartbroken, devastated and traumatized your partner will be.
📌Avoid The Company Of Those That Don’t Value Faithfulness
Proverbs 13:20 says that, when you follow the wise, you’ll become wise but when you will follow fools, you shall be destroyed. Who you follow determines what follows you. Who you company with determines what accompanies you.
So, avoid the company of men and women that are not faithful to their partners, avoid those that don’t respect their marital vows and the sacredness of marriage. It’s just a matter of time before you join them. Bad company corrupts good character.
📌Value What You Have
Sometimes, you will think that the other person is better than your partner until you come close and discover that the grass is not always greener on the other side.
When you don’t value what you have, you will treat it anyhow and abuse it. When you don’t have value and respect for your partner, you will cheat on the person. What you value, you cherish, guide, protect and care for.
If you value your partner, you will cherish him or her, you will care about his or her feelings. Place a premium value on your partner.
It’s the same penis. It’s the same vigina. It’s the same breasts. Be content.
📌Be prayerful
When we pray, we express how hopeless and powerless we are before God and thus entreat Him for strength.
One of the ways to overcome the temptation to cheat is prayer. Jesus told his disciples one day that they should pray so that they will not fall into temptation.
The temptation to cheat is everywhere but when you prayer you will find strength to overcome.
Sometimes the temptation to cheat can be very overwhelming that it is only God’s grace that can save one.
Sometimes it’s the husband that is pushing the wife to cheat by being irresponsible.
Sometimes it’s the wife that is pushing the husband to find comfort in the embrace of another woman by her constant quarrelling and nagging and sometimes denial of sex.
When one finds himself or herself in situations like this, it can be very frustrating especially when there are better options outside.
It’s only the grace of God that can come to the rescue because human strength and patience have limits. You will get tired one day and give in. Ask God for grace to stand. It’s not easy.
📌Create boundaries
If you’re married or in a committed relationship, create boundaries.
👉Create boundaries with the opposite sex
👉Don’t put yourself in situations where you will be tempted to cheat
👉Mind the places you go.
👉Create physical, emotional, and communication boundaries.
A city without a wall, will be invaded.
Happy new week
GNC Chukwuemeka is a blogger, realtor MC, PR Strategist, public affairs commentator
