WHY LADIES DUMP THE MEN THEY LOVE:
How come a woman breaking up with a man even when she is in love with him? The reasons are shocking.
A healthy relationship requires continuous efforts from both the partners, and love might not be the only driving force that keeps its spark alive. Its course is unpredictable, and there are times when a woman might leave their significant other, even if she is still in love with him.
To fall in love is difficult and to cease loving someone is even harder. So why would anyone leave a person, he or she might be in love with? Life would have been very easy if the answer to this question were that simple!
But love works in mysterious ways which even the smartest of us fail to understand. The reason may be many: sexual incompatibility, emotional unavailability and what not. It’s impossible to fathom.
All said and done, it’s true that women do leave the men they love. Here are some reasons that might force her to walk out of the relationship despite being in love with her partner.
1. Being taken for granted:
No woman would ever like to be taken for granted in a relationship. It makes her feel that she holds no importance in her man’s life and even her strongest feelings would start to dwindle once this realisation sinks in.
This trait is quite detrimental for the relationship and no matter how much she’s in love with her significant other, the thought of walking out will surely cross her mind.
2. Not spending quality time together:
This is one of the most common reasons why women leave their partners despite having intense feelings for them. A relationship starts dying slowly when there is lack of communication between the partners.
Every woman needs a shoulder to lean on after a hectic day, and someone to simply ask, “How was your day?”. Is it too much to ask for?
3. Sex is no longer out of love:
For woman, sex is more than just a physical need. It is actually ‘love making’ for them and a way to feel being loved by their partner. Once she starts to sense that there is no emotion left whenever they hit the bed and he’s simply having it to destress himself, it surely starts denting her feelings.
Sex for many women is like chicken soup—a warm and comforting soul food for her emotions. When you crave for a bowl of creamy chicken soup, will you be happy if someone serves bowl rich gravy-laden baked chicken?
4. He turns selfish and secretive:
This point needs no elaboration. A healthy relationship is all about being honest with your partner and loving them unconditionally.
Despite having a sea of emotions for her man, a woman will break free from the relationship if her partner is mean with her, and starts keeping secrets from her.
No matter how small it might be, when a partner keeps things to himself, any one is bound to get hurt. Remember, to be partners in crime you need to know what crimes your partner is committing!
5. Being compared to other women:
A man may not realise, but comparing your partner with another woman can do irreparable damage to the relationship.
Firstly, nobody likes being compared to anyone, not even men. And comparing her with others can even damage her self-esteem and make her take the extreme step.
6. Appreciation at the right time:
Appreciating her from time to time does no harm to anyone, right?
A woman happily manages all the house hold chores, juggles kitchen and office work and never hesitates to embrace her partner with a warm smile when they meet after a hectic day.
But if she isn’t appreciated for all the efforts she puts in to make the relationship worthwhile, it is bound to eventually bog her down, and it would not be a surprise if she toys with the idea of breaking free from the relationship. COPIED!
It used to be men dumping women in relationships, but today, women dump men. Men are almost at the mercy of women in some cases. Ladies should no more be taken for granted.
Some years ago, women were almost like slaves: they had no rights and privileges; they had no choice and decision of their own; they were given out in marriage at tender age without their consent; they were mere housewives given rise to the old fashioned slogan, “women’s education ends in the kitchen”.
In those years, women were made to depend solely on their husbands for everything. They have no views, even if they had, they swallow it and die in silence; they have no right to their husband’s body; they only go to their husbands when their husbands are in need of them.
Some years ago women were given out in marriage before maturity – many only live to mature in their husband’s homes; their interests were not considered as some only find themselves to be second, third, fourth wives, etc.
They are only involved in petty trading and subsistence farming; they were regarded as baby factories as they carry pregnancy and bear children; they never knew the beauty of sexual relationships except that they become mothers afterwards. They were only relevant for sex, producing children and domestic affairs.
But today, women can compete with men in different healthy and positive ways: women are co-breadwinners; they are educated as the men; they are resourceful as the men; they are in authority as the men; they are in charge of offices and parastatals as the men.
In those years, women were only packaged for domestic/household chores, marriage and child bearing; it was the men that families and communities made sacrifices to travel abroad for studies while they bid goodbye to their brothers.
Today, the status of women has changed. They now take their destiny in their hands; they can now make choices and make decisions on their own like the men; they can give commands like the men; they know what they want, and they go for it.
Today, women are heads of States, governors, Prime ministers, chief executives, top ranking officers in the army, professors in the high institutions, heads of parastatals, etc.
Today, women’s education no longer end in the kitchen. Today, women have become agents of transformation. And as such, women should no longer be taken for granted.
I’m not writing to sway women or insight them against men, neither am I writing to promote feminism. I’m rather writing for a balanced mindset of the sexes. I’m not writing to oppose the Christian position of women.
The biblical injunction is still intact: Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives,
1 Pet. 3:1.
Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.” 1 Pet. 3:7.
The Holy Scripture is clear about the position of women – “The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Gen. 2:18.
Women are helpers suitable for men. No man is complete in himself without a woman, and no woman is complete in herself without a man. They complement each other.
While women are expected to respectfully submit to their husbands, men are expected to love their wives. “However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” Eph. 5:33.
The Bible also tells us what true love is in 1 Corinthians 13:4–7. “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”
If we follow the scriptural injunction, we would rather not compete but complement ourselves.
Source:
marriage.com
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