Being a Divorcee Has Been a Blessing to Me – Nigerian Woman Reflects Five Years After Marriage Ended
A Nigerian woman, Hussaina Sufyan Ahmed, has said that her divorce has turned out to be a blessing, opening the way for personal growth, family fulfillment, and renewed focus on her goals.
Ahmed, a mother of one, made the remarks in a Facebook post on Sunday, August 17, 2025, as she marked nearly five years since her marriage ended.
According to her, leaving her marriage in 2020 was not the end but the beginning of a new phase in her life.
“Since I got divorced in 2020, one of my wishes was to get whatever my parents desired for them, not just this but to also be able to do the appropriate responsibilities for my daughter since it was a journey I travelled alone,” she wrote.
The Kaduna-born woman said her divorce gave her the freedom to achieve several long-desired goals. Among them, she noted, was fulfilling her late mother’s greatest wish, something she described as a turning point in her life.
“Fast forward to three years of being a divorcee, I got a lot of things and one of the most outstanding was granting my mother’s best wish, a wish that is another year old today and still makes her pray for me continuously irrespective of what she is doing,” she stated.
Reflecting on her father’s comments, Ahmed explained that he often joked she should have been born male because of her resilience and ability to handle responsibilities usually associated with men.
“I always reply that I am a woman, a strong one at that, and not ever a man,” she said.
Looking back on the past five years, Ahmed said the journey had not been without its challenges, but she emphasized that peace and fulfillment outweighed the difficulties.
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“This is almost five years of being a divorcee and all I can say is being a divorcee has been a blessing to me. There are times I have wasted my time in getting close to people who didn’t deserve it, but what is most important now is the fact that they are aware and are either admiring from afar or gossiping from afar – and in any choice they make, I don’t care,” she wrote.
She also offered encouragement to others going through similar experiences, urging them not to see divorce as a failure.
“Dear divorcee, that marriage you left won’t be the end of you. Wait and be patient with yourself and work towards achieving your goals. Some will use you but then don’t forget to also outsmart, because at the end of the day, every human is the angel in their own story,” she added.
Ahmed’s post has drawn attention online, resonating with many Nigerians who see her experience as a reflection of the growing conversation around marriage, resilience, and women’s empowerment in the country.