Nigerian Lawyer Mourns Sister Who D!ed One Year After Marriage
The Agbatar family has been thrown into grief following the untimely death of 33-year-old Henrietta Doosuurshater Agbatar, who passed away barely one year after her marriage.
Her brother, Nigerian lawyer Joe Agbatar, took to Facebook to share the heartbreaking news and raise troubling questions about the circumstances surrounding her death.
According to Joe, Henrietta’s husband, Sefa Awen, claimed that she died from a lung infection on July 31, 2025. However, he dismissed that explanation, alleging instead that she suffered heart failure that developed over time — a decline he believes was directly tied to the difficulties she faced in her marriage.
“She thought she was getting into a marriage,” Joe wrote. “But she got roped into a merciless snare, and her life dramatically changed for the worse.”
Henrietta married Sefa on August 17, 2024, a day that should have marked the beginning of joy and new beginnings. Instead, just a year later, her brother describes her marriage as a turning point that ushered in a downward spiral.
By July 2025, Henrietta was gone — suddenly, painfully, and, in Joe’s words, “undeservingly.”
The shock of her death has been devastating for the family, particularly their aging mother, whose health has been strained under the weight of both grief and conflict.
As if the loss itself were not enough, her death sparked an acrimonious dispute between her birth family and her husband’s relatives.
Joe explained that his family initially requested a quick burial so their mother could begin healing. However, Henrietta’s in-laws rejected the suggestion, insisting that since they had paid her bride price less than a year earlier, the authority to decide her burial arrangements rested solely with them.
This sparked deep resentment. According to Joe, the in-laws even went ahead to fix a burial date without informing the Agbatar family. The family only learned of the plans after spotting the program online — a revelation that drove the already grieving mother into collapse.
Matters reached a breaking point when Joe, as a lawyer, secured a court order prohibiting the burial. Only after the intervention of respected elders and community leaders did both sides reach a fragile truce.
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With the tensions slightly eased, a new arrangement was agreed upon. Henrietta will be laid to rest on August 21, 2025, in her husband’s village. Before then, a requiem mass will be held at Our Lady of Perpetual Help Cathedral Church in Makurdi. Wakes will take place on August 20 at both the Agbatar home and the residence of her husband.
While the burial plans are now settled, the scars left by the conflict may linger long after Henrietta is laid to rest.
Henrietta’s story is not just about one family’s grief — it also reflects deeper cultural tensions in Nigerian society.
The question of who controls burial arrangements often becomes a flashpoint in marriages, especially when bride price is involved. Traditionally, once bride price is paid, some families see the woman as having fully “belonged” to her husband’s household, with her natal family having limited say in her affairs, even in death.
But as Joe’s statement suggests, this cultural expectation can clash with modern realities. To him, bride price was a symbolic act, not a transfer of ownership. Yet in many communities, it still forms the basis for control, sometimes sparking disputes as devastating as the tragedy that claimed Henrietta’s life.
Such conflicts highlight the urgent need for conversations about marriage, autonomy, and family power dynamics in Nigeria. Beyond customs, the human toll of unresolved disputes — collapsing mothers, fractured families, legal battles, and bitterness — is too high a price to pay.
For Joe and his family, Henrietta’s story is still raw. His tribute speaks of deep sorrow, but also of resilience.
“Fast-forward to 31st July 2025, she lost her life. Suddenly, unexpectedly, and undeserving,” he wrote.
In the end, Henrietta’s life and death serve as a painful reminder of how quickly fortunes can change and how grief is often compounded by the very traditions meant to bind families together.
As her loved ones prepare to lay her to rest, the Agbatars carry not just the weight of loss, but also the hope that her story sparks reflection on how marriage and culture shape the lives — and sometimes the deaths — of women in Nigeria.
May the soul of Henrietta Doosuurshater Agbatar rest in peace.